Moms – Why I’ll always be #2

I’ve accepted the fact that I’ll be always be #2 to a couple people on this planet – my future kids. Their #1 go to person is going to be their mother. I can accept that now, or face the music later. The mother-child bond is one that is very, very difficult to breach. Mothers will put their children before themselves.

It took me 21 years to realize how much we take our Mother’s for granted. But they are responsible for developing the great individuals we go on to become. Let me explain. From years 1-13 or so of our childhood, our Mom makes every decision for us: what school we attend, what activities we partake in, what we eat for every meal, what events we go to, which friends we have, and how we develop our value-system. Our mother’s are so a part of our lives that at young ages we even ask permission to eat a lollipop. True story: A cousin of mine (age 9) was given a piece of candy by his Aunt on one end of the house, but ran all the way across the home to ask his mom if it’d be okay for him to eat it, even though he could have done so without his mom ever knowing. THAT’s how dependent we can be on our Mother’s – for even the simplest of decisions. Then, from years 13-18 we try to rebel as much as possible, throw fits, think we’re cooler than she is, and spend as much time independently a possible. From years 18-22 – we live on her money for 4 years where we skip class, put on weight, and party non-stop. Then we graduate and move out where we start our own lives, career, and family.

But I think all along the way, we subconsciously appreciate everything she’s doing, whether we know it or not. Why else do we get so riled up over “yo momma” comments as junior high students? I’d agree that we need to do a better job of showing our appreciation to our mothers – but it seems like regardless of whether we do that or not, that they continue to go on, loving us selflessly. I’m now convinced that every mother has a touch of divinity from above, because no average mortal could put up with all the crap they put up with and not go insane.

So whenever possible, call your mom and tell her you love her. Spend time with her, buy her nice things, care for her, and never forget how much she did for you while asking nothing in return. We owe her everything. It’s taken me some time to come to grips with the fact I’ll always be #2 to my future kids, but I think I’m okay with it. Why?

Because I’ll always be #1 to my Mom.

A random video I found on youtube: